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In some form or another most of us are interested
in finding our own power power in today's society
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is incredibly valued but there are different ways
to wield power and what I want to talk about on
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today's podcast is how we can be powerful
as feminine women and how to lean into the
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power inherent in our femininity. Welcome to
The Satisfied Woman podcast. I'm your host,
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Alanna Kaivalya, Ph.D. This podcast is dedicated
to helping women lean into their femininity and
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rediscover the power of their feminine gifts we
take a look at what it means to be a modern woman
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and how we can live A Satisfied life on our own
terms visit the hub at thesatisfiedwoman.com and
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new for you today actually on the podcast is
a special page just for podcast listeners to
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get all of the best freebies resource and gifts
I have to offer you via my website so check all
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that out at thesatisfiedwoman.com/empowerme
and I thought today's podcast episode was a
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great day to bring this new page forward for you
the Empower me page because we are talking about
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the concept of feminine power and I want to
discuss its significance in today's world and
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how it contrasts with traditional Notions of
power so let's start with the more traditional
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Notions and where we're coming from and probably
what you think of or even experience in your own
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life as what people think is power so first of all
power is often associated with strength uh meaning
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physical strength or physical might we think of
cars or trucks as powerful I think of the horses
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I enjoy riding as powerful I think of people who
work out in the gym as powerful and yes there is a
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lot of power in strength for sure but those are
two different qualities you can be strong and
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still be incredibly weak so even if you can lift
9 million pounds with some pretty Fierce biceps if
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you don't have the capacity to stand in your own
power your own internal power then what kind of
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strength do you really have lifting weights
or being physically strong certainly is one
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thing standing in your own power is the sense of
knowing who you are knowing truly who you are to
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your core and having the freedom or the agency to
actually be that in the world now when I describe
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it that way it might be easy to understand that
for women this has been a very difficult thing
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to do in the past and even still today remains
an uphill battle being free to be who we are
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as women can often be very dangerous in many
ways it can be physically dangerous emotionally
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dangerous psychologically dangerous Liv living in
a patriarchal society as we do means that feminine
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gifts and qualities are typically devalued and
so it feels like we are compromising something
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if we really lean into our femininity stand in
our true power and unleash those gifts on the
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world many of us me included right I speak because
I have the experience to hide our femininity and
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our Womanhood to some extent in order to try to
lean into what is viewed masculine forms of power
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so we often associate power with masculinity
as well not just that physical strength but
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the power to make decisions the power to lead we
think of our military as strong and powerful and
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we typically think of the military as a more
masculine Endeavor or um masculine um career
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choice or masculine pathway it doesn't necessarily
have to be remember femininity can be done in any
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Arena it's just going to be that you do things
a little differently uh women females feminine
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women can absolutely be in the military I've
known many of them who are incredibly strong
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and powerful they're going to hold that military
might in a different way they're going to hold it
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in a feminine way so there is a difference between
masculine power and feminine power power does not
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just belong to the masculine and of course in a
distorted way masculine power has often been used
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to oppress so there's a concept of power over
versus Power with Now power over is typically
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how distorted power looks and power over someone
else power over a situation power over a decision
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power over a household when people feel like they
have power over others it does maybe for a moment
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or maybe in a false way give them a sense of
accomplishment or Pride or control anytime we
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feel a sense of control over someone or power over
someone what that requires unfortunately is for us
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to take power away from them and this has often
been the plight of the woman um so for those of
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you I I released this podcast as an audio podcast
of course on all of the podcast channels that
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you're familiar with apple podcast Spotify um but
I also released this podcast as a video on iTunes
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oh and Spotify just started having video podcast
as well so if you happen to be watching the video
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of this podcast you'll see that in this episode
I'm wearing a scarf and this is a wool scarf it is
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kind of a cream color and it's got beautiful pink
flowers printed on it and it matches the shirt
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I'm wearing I thought I'd tie it all in today
for you now the reason the scarf is important
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and I promise relevant to the topic of power
is because this was my grandmother's scarf now
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when you read my book The Way of the satisfied
woman which I sure hope you do or if you read
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any of the blogs that I've posted on my website
the satisfied woman.com uh you're going to hear
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a lot about my grandmother she was perhaps the
most powerful and influential woman in my life as
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a young girl and even to this day she passed away
in 2018 and to this day she is still the voice in
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my head I imagine when my intuition comes through
she's the voice that I hear she was an incredibly
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powerful figure in my life but her background was
from a a very unempowered place or a disempowered
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place she went through World War II and I mean
I don't think anybody who went through World War
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II went through it in a in a not traumatic way
but my grandmother's path through World War II
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was particularly traumatic she was taken from her
home in the Ukraine at the age of 14 separated
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from her family put into a prison camp and
essentially forced to work she was forced
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labor for many years in that prison camp uh on
her own as a young woman she wasn't fed properly
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she wasn't treated properly of course she was
abused uh and she was disempowered she was in
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a place where her power was taken away from her
and she wasn't allowed to be who she was now as
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a result she became very quiet her voice got
shut off and I I think that this is something
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that happens to many women who are in any kind of
situation where they are disempowered their voice
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gets squashed and one of the qualities of course
of powerful femininity is our communication we do
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love to gab we just do this is true of um any
feminine woman uh and if it's not true for you
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as a feminine woman just you know consider that
that maybe there's something that needs to be said
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or perhaps you're saying it in a different way
perhaps you're saying it through ART or perhaps
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you're saying it through text messages or perhaps
you're saying it through the way you physically
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communicate but we really hold the pathways of
connection and communication in our femininity
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so she really shut that down she was quite quiet
she reduced her opinions she reduced her footprint
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she reduced her Mark she basically played small
and that was the way she uh stayed alive so that
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is of course an appropriate coping mechanism but
it didn't allow her to flourish and as a young
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woman this experience of going through World War
II was very impactful for her it was certainly
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something she never forgot and as I witnessed
her growing up and I had the great Fortune to
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spend a lot of time with her it affected her
every single day there wasn't a day that went
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by that either she didn't mention it or relive a
memory or tell me about something or behave in a
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way that reflected those years that she was not
only in the prison camp during World War II but
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she actually ended up staying there as a refugee
after the war for 13 years um until she was able
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to immigrate with immigrate to America with um my
grandfather and her two daughters of course one of
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those being my mother so her power was taken from
her not only by the very difficult circumstances
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of War but by the men and the masculine Paradigm
that was in charge at that time forcing her to
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play small and essentially as I like to call it to
delete herself she had to minimize her footprint
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she had to delete her personality she had to
delete her impact um you know and as I speak
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these words I think about the times in my own
life that I've had to do that under difficult
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circumstances and perhaps you'll think about the
times in your life that you've also had to do the
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same thing that there would have been something
you would have said but you kept your mouth shut
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that you had an intuitive knowing that something
was not okay and yet you did it anyway that you
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had a desire to bring something forth into the
world a creative Endeavor and you kept that desire
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quiet and unrealized because bringing something
into the world at the time would have been either
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unsafe or unwelcome so I grew up with these
stories from my grandmother who by the time I
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arrived on the scene she had regained some of her
power she had come into herself a little bit more
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and uh for those of you watching the video you can
see this beautiful scarf I'm wearing and trust me
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I don't have a lot of things from my grandmother
but the things that I have are precious and they
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are colorful my Grandma had style when she got to
America she decided especially since she couldn't
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afford to purchase clothing that she would learn
to sew and she sewed all the clothing that she
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weared uh weared wor over the years um and they
were beautiful and I have some of those items
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maybe I'll wear one on a feature podcast uh she
had beautiful scars that she'd always wear she
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just loved colors she loved flowers and that
was part of her own self-expression she leaned
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into once she was free from basically being told
what to wear what to do what to say every single
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day so I loved that element of self-expression
I loved her coming into her own and some of the
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things that made her feel powerful was having a
career she loved being a career woman when she
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got to America she was able to find a very simple
minimum wage job that didn't require any skills
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because of course she didn't have any education
um I think she went to school up to maybe third or
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fourth grade and that was it and she ran the copy
room before there were Xerox machines she ran the
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giant machines that copied the plans for American
Crystal Sugar Factory and that company no longer
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exists but she was very proud when they were
thriving that every time a new Factory was built
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that she had printed the plans for that factory
and she was also responsible for keeping the break
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room clean so she was sort of the um the connector
around the office she was in the break room they
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didn't give her a separate office so she was in
the break room all day so everybody who came in
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and out she would say hello to and be friendly
with and that gave her some social experiences
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uh and she loved after she retired receiving her
very small pension check every month because it
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had her name on it my grandmother came from a time
when women weren't allowed to have their own bank
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accounts and they weren't allowed to have their
own mortgages so um trust me everybody I I love my
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grandmother and my grandfather equally um but my
grandfather was afforded a lot more opportunities
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even as an immigrant Coming to America than my
grandmother was so the only money that was truly
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hers was the money that she earned through that
low-wage job and the pension that she received
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every month as a retired person and she was so
proud of it that it was the work that she put
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out into the world that earned her this little bit
of money every month and she had this little coin
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purse that she'd put her actual physical dollars
in because of course she didn't have a checking
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account of her own so that was something that made
her very proud her creative Endeavors also made
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her very proud and powerful it was a way for her
to connect with friends and family uh I had many
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many knitted sweaters from her every dress I wore
up to about the age of eight or nine was a dress
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that she had made for me and another way that my
grandmother expressed her power was by telling
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stories she shared with me stories about her life
because she felt safe in the environment with me
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to do so and after my grandfather passed away he
was very hesitant to share about the hardships
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they experienced in World War II so the stories
were a little fewer and far farther between while
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he was alive but once he passed on and it was um
about 20 years before she did boy oh boy she just
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blossomed and flourished and started speaking so I
got to witness my grandmother who was so important
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to me and really a beacon for me of femininity
as a young woman come in into her power as an
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old woman and it made me identify what being a
powerful woman is because it doesn't mean that
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we need to lift 900 lb uh in a bench press it
doesn't mean that we need to be an overt leader
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to the detriment of others and have power over
other people it's not a hierarchical expression
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true feminine power which is what I want you
to reclaim if you've lost it in any way in any
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part true feminine power comes from our greatest
gifts and the greatest gifts of the feminine are
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our emotions and our emotional connection
and our intuition our ability to tap into
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that inner knowing those are inherently feminine
now everyone has those gifts even those who lean
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more fully into the masculine polarity certainly
have emotions and certainly have intuition and
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is the feminine aspect of them that is the
harbinger of those so if they lean more fully
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into the masculine they won't necessarily bring
those forth all the time they won't necessarily
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trust them as much as we would all the time
and they won't necessarily have as deep and
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Powerful as a of a connection as we do all the
time for feminine women when we really lean into
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our femininity we are connected to our emotions
and our intuition all the time and that is where
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we are going to thrive that is where we are going
to feel and be most powerful when we're fully in
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charge of and demonstrating our femininity to the
world people will experience that as powerful they
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will see that as inspiring as comforting when we
are most fully ourselves we are powerful and this
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is true for anybody any qualities they have when
they bring them forth fully of course when those
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qualities are of benefit to others we don't want
um you know we don't want to go to the dark side
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of anything here that's kind of the difference
between the power over versus Power with as soon
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as power slides into power over any qualities can
be manipulated to a disastrous end so keeping in
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mind that power with and again that power with
is a very feminine fundamental idea femininity
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wants collaboration it wants communion it wants
to be with and for others so when we demonstrate
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our fullness when we demonstrate our power it is
going to be Illuminating for those around us it's
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going to be empowering for those around us our
power will help to shine the light up inside of
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others as well now when we connect to our emotions
when we are completely ourselves then our emotions
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are going to be like guide posts for what feels
right and what doesn't feel right and when we live
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listen to that more fully and when people trust
us when we're surrounded by people who trust us
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and Trust our emotional guidance then they will
be empowered by the emotions that come up for us
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when they come up in a healthy way when we emote
in a healthy way if we feel sad that full sadness
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doesn't necessarily bleed out into others around
us it doesn't necessarily depress others around us
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it can actually move others around us to either
Comfort the the sadness and be present for us
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in our sadness which is connective or to alter
our condition in some way or their condition in
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some way so that we alleviate the sadness now I
want to be careful because sadness is not wrong
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there's nothing wrong with sadness the point
isn't to not be sad sadness is a normal human
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emotion and you know it's going to happen we want
to have lives that uh we are free to experience
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the full range of human emotion with whenever it
is coming up the challenge isn't that emotions
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come up the challenge is when it becomes uh too
drawn out or when it becomes harmful to others
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so what I mean by that is in a natural way humans
uh will have emotions that last between 60 and 90
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seconds so when an emotion arises in a natural
way you know when whatever incident occurs and
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you feel something from it that natural basic
emotion will last only about 609 60 90 seconds
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and then it will pass I know and you're thinking
of me well wait a minute you know sometimes I
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get in a funk for years or sometimes I'll feel
anxiety you know for months um I understand I
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do too I do too that is the participation of the
mind and the thoughts around the emotion not the
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emotion itself when we ret traumatize ourselves
by talking over and over about the incident when
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we continuously think over and over about the
triggering event then the emotions drag on and
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become a little more stuck and that becomes a
challenge but when a natural emotion arises in
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response to something that's going on with us
it's incredible communication about how we're
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feeling about our environment and for those who
are slightly less tapped into our emotions but
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who are tuned into US it provides information to
keep everyone happy and healthy and the energy
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flowing so sadness is information frustration is
information even anger is information I told you a
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little bit about my grandmother uh I want to tell
you about another friend who I love to talk about
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um I think I write about her in my book and I I I
think I've mentioned her before on this podcast I
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consider her superpower to be her full expression
of emotions when she is feeling something she just
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expresses it and she has an incredible amount of
integrity so that when she expresses her emotions
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it it's not coupled with any kind of blame or
shame or attack when she expresses her emotions
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she very clearly states what she is feeling and
why and she's open to receiving feedback about
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what to do or why that is or how to shift it I've
never met anybody like her and in fact I strive
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as much as I can to be like that um she's quite
the inspiration in this way she just has such a
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full and beautiful command of her emotions and
I find it very powerful because I watch people
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around her respond to that I watch them shift and
maneuver to help Elevate her and make her more
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comfortable but in doing so it's not like it's not
like a princess Vibe it's not like everybody's cow
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Towing to her or pandering in any way they really
love her especially her husband he really loves
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her and he's very responsive and he's very playful
as well with how he resp oh no you know here we go
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again he'll say as some husbands will um but he's
responsive and he adjusts he course corrects and
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in doing so they have a very symbiotic and
unified communication system and a very uh
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symbiotic life that flows in a beautiful Direction
so power for us as feminine women lies in our full
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expression of emotions and being around people
people who understand and respond to them in a
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healthy way another element of feminine power
is our intuition and you know I it's a toss up
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for me whether it's Intuition or emotions that
are more powerful for the feminine I think maybe
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it's an individual experience right because we're
all different so perhaps you as a feminine woman
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like my good friend her emotions are just they're
gold uh and perhaps for some others of us it's the
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intuition that really is where our sweet spot is
for navigating life and finding more satisfaction
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in life when we have intuition as women um that is
absolutely one of our most powerful gifts and I I
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describe it as the voice of our ancestors coming
through our female ancestors coming through they
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have had tremendous experiences they have lived
through Millennia of this patriarchal culture that
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we have now inherited and they have wisdom for
us and it's written into our biology if you've
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ever looked into something called epigenetics
you know that this is actually in our DNA it is
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activated by certain life events and triggers
that we go through and something arises from
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within us and we don't know why and it may not
be because we've experienced anything like it
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before but there is just an inner knowing that
we need to do this or that or shift our course
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or respond in a certain way now I maintain
and I'm happy to to take bets on this one but
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I maintain that any time a woman disregards
her intuition that it will not have a good
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outcome now I I left a long dramatic pause there
for for a reason I feel that very strongly and
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I know that to be true in my own life and I know
that to be true in the lives of the women that I
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speak with as well and talk to that we always look
back on moments where we didn't heed our intuition
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and we recognize in hindsight that those moments
were moments of disempowerment moments where we
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were not ourselves that we weren't in our fullness
that we were convinced by the agenda of another by
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someone else having power over us if it's not
right for us if it doesn't feel right if our
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emotions start to well up in a in a not great way
in a negative way if we have an intuitive hit to
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not go down that road but we do anyway that is
a disempowered state and it will end up with a
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negative result so embracing our feminine power
is in some sense it's a leadership role because
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when we do it fully those around us will be
inspired by us and will be responsive but
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it just means that we're leading ourselves we
have agency we're in charge of ourselves when
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we're in full embodiment embodiment and power
of ourselves and we listen to our intuition and
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our guidance we are always going to be on the
right path now my grandmother was very much on
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her right path once she escaped from the trauma
and the hardship that she went through and when
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she started to be able to make her own decisions
which really wasn't until she got to America and
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probably even decades after um you know she still
brought a lot of her inculturation with her um I
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really feel like one of the greatest things that
she did every day was go on a f mile walk that
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was her ability to connect that was her ability
to be herself she wasn't listening to the noise
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of others I mean I remember even you know again I
like I said my my grandfather and my grandmother
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share equal love in my eyes but my grandfather
voted for my grandmother when they got their
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ballots in the mail he would just take hers and
and Mark exactly what he was voting for and then
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send them in so there were still a lot of ways in
which she was disempowered but I saw her powerful
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when she walked she was so accomplished with her
she was so proud that she was walking um after
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my grandfather died my mom actually decided
to enroll her in 5K races walk races and in
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her age group she always won and I remember the
first time she won her 5K she was beaming with
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pride beaming with pride because this was hers
this is what she wanted to do this is where she
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found a sense of connection to Nature to her
femininity and to herself when we're connected
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to ourselves we are powerful the the other way
in which women are powerful feminine women are
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powerful so emotions intuition leaning into those
listening to those being in environments around
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people who respond them incredibly powerful when
we are most fully ourselves we are powerful and
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one of the things that makes feminine women most
fully themselves is their sense of creativity now
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I have another podcast on creativity so I won't go
too much into what creativity is but it expresses
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itself in many ways it is whatever you generate
from almost nothing and as women we can do that
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in incredible ways not just by literally creating
something from almost nothing in terms of having a
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child but creating something from almost nothing
in terms of birthing new ideas into the world it
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doesn't have to be Artistry it doesn't have to be
um something that people would commonly term as
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creative but whatever it is that you generate
whatever it is that you birth into the world
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makes you creative and the world needs it so any
stifling of that for the feminine is disempower
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and it will make us feel closed and make us feel
small uh women are inherently powerful we are
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inherently ambitious we inherently understand when
and where change needs to happen in our world and
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we will create that change with our creativity you
know I think about the powerful me too movement
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and the pink [ __ ] hats that everybody was
knitting what an incredibly creative emblem of a
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movement that centers women's safety so that kind
of creativity that kind of communion and community
0:28:35.440,0:28:41.480
that kind of moving life forward letting everyone
around us know hey this is the best pathway for
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us for my community for my tribe there are many
Pathways I am not saying there is one pathway
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for all women but for you and those you align
yourself with you will occupy a leadership role
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as an embodied feminine woman when you lean into
your intuition emotions and your creativity and
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start bringing forward from within you the kind of
world the kind of life and the kind of living that
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is most authentic for you and most inspiring to
those around you so embracing your feminine power
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truly means having the freedom and fearlessness
to lean into who you are as a feminine
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woman now just as I say that even I feel
like a weight removing from my shoulders
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um and I also feel the juxtaposition of the spaces
and places that women still exist in that make
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that kind of power difficult compromised or even
dangerous so as you listen to this podcast my dear
0:29:46.760,0:29:53.360
fellow satisfied sister I hope you'll think
about places spaces and ways in which you can
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lean in to your power that are safe and that are
inspiring for you you may be in a position where
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you can do this fully in your life and you may be
in a position where you can do this in one area
0:30:04.400,0:30:09.920
of your life but in whatever way is appropriate
for you I hope that you will I hope that you will
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start to bring forth your power in as many ways
as you can just as my grandmother did um another
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creative thing that she did was she used to make
me scrunchies she used to knit sweaters she used
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to make clothing and she used to make food she
loved me through food and all of those ways
0:30:27.520,0:30:38.480
that she brought her love her heart her soul into
the world made my world better and we can do that
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for others so this one's for you baba so for the
women in your life who've inspired you for your
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ancestors listen to your intuition for the people
around you who love you listen to your emotions
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and for all the people who are around you and want
to come after you bring forth your creativity all
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right everybody for more resources and for all
the free goodies I've compiled for you head over
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