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On the path to becoming a satisfied woman we 
need to understand more of what is feminine

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energy and how to light our own path toward 
empowerment welcome to the satisfied woman

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podcast I'm your host, Alanna Kaivalya, Ph.D. 
This podcast is dedicated to helping women lean

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into their femininity and rediscover the power 
of their feminine gifts we take a look at what

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it means to be a modern woman and how we can 
live as satisfied life on our own terms visit

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the hub at thesatisfiedwoman.com. I wanted 
to take this podcast to explore more about

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feminine energy and what it means to be empowered 
first I'd like to talk about that word empowered

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if you have listened to my podcast before you 
know what a fan I am of etymology definitions

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unpacking terms I think the words we use are 
very powerful and understanding their meaning

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intrinsically helps us to get to the heart of 
not just what the word means but how to live

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and embody it so empowered means to be powered 
from within so that nothing outside of you is

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running the show there's no terms conditions or 
rules telling you what you need to do for yourself

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there's nothing driving you from the outside 
you're actually driven from within the way that

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I like to think of empowerment is actually very 
simply as a light bulb a light bulb of course has

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its own light I I know we'll take you know the 
obvious needs of the water and power Department

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out of it feeding the electricity into the light 
bulb but the light bulb itself shines from within

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and even if the light bulb itself has a shade 
covering it the light is still there and if you

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put a blanket over the top of that shade the light 
is still on we're still powered from the inside

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even if people around us can't see the light or 
are immune to it or frankly are just blind to

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it I think this is something that women need to 
keep in mind women unfortunately in the current

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dominant culture which is let's just name it the 
patriarchy are often not noticed or seen for their

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light we are often seen as disempowered 
that kind of messaging from the culture

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often creates a negative cycle within us that 
makes us feel as if we are disempowered as if

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we don't have our own agency so whether we're 
being given it from the outside or not whether

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it's being taken from us from the outside or not 
whether we are denying it to ourselves that state

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of disempowerment Keeps Us small it prevents us 
from reaching our goals of equality or equity and

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it feeds into The Narrative of women being 
less than women not having the power to do

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things themselves and we're we're overcoming this 
I understand we've got things happening that are

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allowing women to be more empowered we're being 
viewed as more empowered we're helping each other

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become more empowered but there is still a lot of 
this disempowerment narrative to overcome now what

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I want to remind you of my dear satisfied woman 
is that no matter the stories you've been told

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no matter the Nar native that you have in your 
mind no matter what the culture is telling us no

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matter how it's shifting no matter the wins we've 
achieved over the last say seven years with the

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me too movement the last 60 plus years with the 
feminist movement or the last 100 plus years with

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women themselves trying to find their own agency 
even with all of the movement forward there is

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still a narrative there and no matter what you're 
being told no matter how you feel about your

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your femininity your Womanhood you do still have 
that light shining no one can turn it off it's

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there it's inside of you it is intrinsic it is 
inbuilt it is empowered meaning it is always

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there being fed by the source of who you are your 
femininity your energy your soul it's there so

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whether it's got a heavy lampshade over it or a 
big fluffy blanket over it maybe the world can't

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see it maybe you yourself sometimes can't see 
it it's there so if we're on the search for

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feminine energy if we're trying to embody that 
more fully if we're trying to become more fully

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ourselves which would be a state of empowerment 
um Joseph Campbell the mythologist uh he has he's

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very quotable he's frankly very quotable um one 
of his quotes is the the privilege of a lifetime

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is being who you are now I love this no matter who 
you are no matter who's listening to this podcast

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no matter who you share it with or uh whether 
you're leaning into your femininity or or helping

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someone in your life lean into their femininity or 
not being who you are knowing who you are is truly

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the state of empowerment so we need to realize 
this about ourselves first and it's okay if we

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fail to see it some days it's okay if we forget 
that that light is always internally shining it's

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okay if sometimes we look at another even another 
woman and don't see her light it's okay we want

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to get to a point of more consistent remembrance 
and recognition of that empowerment and when we

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get to a point of more consistent remembrance 
and recognition of that empowerment within our

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self it will be easier to see it in others and 
hopefully start to empower them as well one of the

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great things about being a woman uh there are many 
great things one of the great things about being a

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woman and particularly a feminine woman in this 
day and age with all of the shifts and changes

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that are happening around us is that women are 
known for this is statistically true for sharing

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their generosity sharing their wealth essentially 
sharing their empowerment when women are empowered

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when we have agency we don't keep it for ourselves 
that um that more hierarchical individual pathway

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uh we could name it as selfish but honestly 
sometimes it is actually self-serving in a

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really positive way but that more individualistic 
kind of pathway towards a hierarchical uh view of

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success is a masculine trait it's not negative I 
don't want to name it as negative it's it's got

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its purpose when it's needed but the feminine 
counterpart of that we feel successful we

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feel most empowered when that's also happening 
for those around us when those around us feel

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empowered successful uh most themselves we feel 
good our empowerment is mutually beneficial so if

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we can Empower ourselves uh the good news is we're 
we're going to be helping others and I know that

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helping others is high on the list of priorities 
for most women uh it's part of who we are okay

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well I mean isn't that what we're all about we 
want everybody to feel safe comfortable Loved

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These are all feminine qualities and gifts and 
when we are empowered ourselves feeling that in

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and of ourselves we offer that to others so really 
all of this is only good news you have that light

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shining within you no matter what it was placed 
there at the moment of your birth the moment you

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took your first breath and came into Accord with 
the universe and as you grew in your childhood and

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de decided or discovered right we don't know if 
it's a a chicken or the egg decided or discovered

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however it came about that you identified 
as a feminine woman that light Shone in a

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certain way within you now culture Society family 
history the patriarchy your world your condition

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may have made you believe that that light was dim 
it is not I'm here to tell you it's not and our

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work as feminine wom as we're um leaning more 
into this femininity and discovering ourselves

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and moving along the path towards satisfaction 
is not to brighten that light it is already

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self-effulgent and bright as [ __ ] it's simply to 
uncover it it's simply to release the trappings of

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all of the BS the belief systems now that make us 
believe that that light is not on so that said my

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little pep talk of intrinsic empowerment which 
is who you are um I'm hoping it's getting you

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excited for what empowerment means for you and 
what it will allow you to do as a woman in the

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world because we've got work to do not just for 
ourselves to make our own personal lives better

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but in the world to make the lives of other 
women our daughters our sisters our mothers

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uh other men around us the people that we love 
most better uh that that's really at the heart of

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who we are as as feminine women we want everybody 
to succeed we want everybody to be happy um it's

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just a part of our nature you know I don't I 
don't mean to speak for you uh but I do imagine

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that if you are a listener of this podcast that's 
probably something that's in your value system and

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so I'm speaking to that now I want to give you 
some pointers as to how you know when you are

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in your personal power there are some ways to know 
that because you might be wondering well you know

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great thanks Alana I appreciate your pep talk on 
the fact that I do have this empowerment inside

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of me but how do I know that how do I recognize 
that in others how am I sure that I am empowered

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how will I be able to tick that box I love ticking 
boxes as much as the next person so let me give

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you a couple of tips and hints for what being in 
your personal power feels like powered inwardly

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letting that light shine and hopefully shining 
bright enough that you start to release whatever

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might be covering over it and dimming it either 
for yourself or for others so one first little box

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to know that you are self-empowered is that you 
have autonomy you are calling the shots now this

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is tough for women historically we've had shots 
called for us whether that be in our personal

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lives or our Collective lives whether it be our 
uh individual bodily rights being Stripped Away

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whether it being being told who to marry whether 
it be uh being told how to dress what career to

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choose uh how to act in the world how to repress 
our femininity because it's being devalued there's

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a lot of messaging out there that strips us of 
our autonomy you'll know when you're empowered

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when you take that back when you're calling 
the shots in your own life when you have agents

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when you can stand up for yourself when you can 
say no no to whatever drains your energy no to

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whatever feels inauthentic no to whatever doesn't 
serve your highest purpose or the highest purpose

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of those around you no to overextending yourself 
when you have the agency to choose fully what

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is right good and and true for you you know 
that you are empowered so you have autonomy

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you're calling the shots now if you're not doing 
that right now I understand I do there's a lot

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of again messaging uh in our history in our 
culture that tries to take that away from us

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but I guess my question back to you would be what 
would happen if you did what would happen if you

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started calling your own shots what would happen 
if you took back your own agency I know for myself

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in my history or even in my present moment when 
I feel a sense of disempowered and I don't feel

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autonomous if I don't feel like I have agency the 
thing I'm most concerned about is pissing someone

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else off or upsetting someone that I love well if 
I don't do what they ask either they won't need

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me or they'll think that I you know don't feel a 
certain way about them or um they'll they'll go

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out they'll go somewhere else for what they need 
it's usually about hurting other people's feelings

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um my suggestion to you is don't worry about it 
let go of that when you are autonomous and you

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are working in your own agency you're working 
authentically and if you're not anything you do

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inauthentically ultimately is harmful to yourself 
and others anyway it's not coming from your heart

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it's not coming from your soul and though there 
may be a short-term gain in doing what someone

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else is asking and in you know not pissing them 
off there is no long-term gain and it's not going

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to further connect you to them or with them so 
it's okay to get comfortable with disappointing

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people sometimes now if it's in your value system 
to do something for them that's a bit outside

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of your comfort zone I understand and doing that 
occasionally is okay I wouldn't recommend it long

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term it's not a part of a long-term successful 
solution and as women we have been taught and

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trained to care far too much about the needs 
of other people while subjugating our own and

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that just needs to stop it just does just because 
people are used to it just because we may be used

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to it doesn't make it right and it doesn't make it 
the way for us to move forward autonomy and agency

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are how you know you're empowered and sometimes 
disappointing other people helps you to get your

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own needs met and in my research in my study 
There is almost nothing more important to the

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life of a human than getting his or her own needs 
met so we start here with autonomy and agency the

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next little box to know looks thing to tick is um 
that you have self trust you trust yourself you

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trust yourself now for a feminine woman what 
that means is that you honor your intuition

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I maintain that the two most important qualities 
of femininity are our intuition our inner knowing

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and our emotions our emotions and our intuition 
are the Beating Heart of Womanhood and the core

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of femininity it is who we are and our 
culture has spent 2500 probably up to

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5,000 maybe even 8,000 years if we look back at 
where the patriarchy originated repressing that

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because when women listen to their intuition it 
means things need to change our intuition speaks

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often times when we feel a sense of discomfort we 
get that spidey sense that that uh tingle inside

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of our belly or maybe on the back of our neck 
that says wait a minute something's not right

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here now I know for myself and I speak this way 
because I I imagine it's probably the same for

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you that when we feel it we often don't listen to 
it and I cannot tell you how every single time I

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haven't listened to my intuition I have regretted 
it I have looked back and regretted it and I bet

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that that's true for you too there's never going 
to be a time that you that you don't listen to

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your intuition and you get get past something and 
think wow that was that was actually really great

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your intuition is there for a reason it is your 
ancestry communicating to you about what keeps you

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safe happy and comfortable and in moments where 
your intuition is speaking up where you have

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that inner sense that inner knowing it doesn't 
have to make sense in fact it is not logical

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logic is the principle of masculinity it is ma 
masculinity's greatest strength um it doesn't

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to be logical you don't have to figure it out you 
don't have to know why it's coming up for you you

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just have to listen to it trusting yourself 
trusting your intuition always following that

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inner guidance is what keeps you on a course 
that not only keeps you safe comfortable and

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happy but also eventually keeps others around 
you safe comfortable and happy the reason why we

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often repress it and the reason why the culture 
has repressed it is because when it comes up it

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often means other people around us need to adjust 
and one of the strengths of masculinity is forward

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motion and consistent Direction leadership now 
we love leadership there's nothing wrong with

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it in fact it gets us to a Finish Line and we 
we have to employ it in many circumstances but

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feminine intuition is there to change the course 
when it's necessary if we're on a course that's

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going to take us to the wrong destination it's 
the feminine intuition that will let the Mas

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know that whether it's the masculine 
outside of you or whether it's your

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own internal masculine because we all have both 
internal masculine and feminine energies right

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sometimes our internal masculine drives 
will try to override our own internal

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feminine intuition if you identify as a feminine 
woman listen to that intuition first and trust

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yourself all right our next bit where we know 
that we are empowered is that we have the ability

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to decide we have discernment now I come from a 
background of yoga and spiritual practice that's

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what I did before I moved into this work it was 
a great foundation for me for this work and it's

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where a lot of my research actually originated 
I'm going to bring in a Sanskrit word for you

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because I've always loved it and it helps to 
illuminate what I believe is the most powerful

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definition of discernment all right the ability 
to side discernment in Sanskrit is VCA VCA means

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your ability to make a choice that is always 
going to help you lean toward the light now if

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we think about being empowered is our own Inner 
Light we definitely want to lean into that if a

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choice is going to help you lean into that light 
then you are practicing discernment you are making

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a powerful choice for yourself now here's an 
overwhelming fact as an adult you make on average

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35,000 decisions every day from whether to get 
up out of bed at the first sound of the alarm to

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when to brush your teeth to how to walk out that 
door what outfit to put on how to engage with your

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friends your counterparts your loved ones 35,000 
decisions every day imagine the power behind

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making those decisions in such a way that it keeps 
you leaning into that incredible feminine light

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that is your Birthright that's discernment and 
that's your power of decision- making all right

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our next place our next bit our next box that 
we know we're empowered on our list and this is

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not a hierarchical list right femininity doesn't 
have hierarchy it's egalitarian so we don't need

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to have one first before the other in this list 
but the next one is effectiveness you're actually

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getting your needs met you're in a situation where 
your needs are getting met this is an easy one if

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you are in a situation where your needs are not 
being met get out of that situation okay it's

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easy for me to say that I know that there are 
many situations that it is both difficult and

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especially for us women potentially dangerous to 
get out of um if you are in a place of danger then

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you do need to get out of it um and I understand 
the difficulty in sometimes extracting yourself

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from a a dangerous situation um my my heart is 
actually feeling a lot of emotion for that right

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now for my fellow women who are in that position 
and please reach out for help if that is the case

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um I want that for you if there are situations 
that are more under your control and you notice

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that you are not getting your needs met whether 
it's a relationship with a friend a loved one

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business uh a housing situation whatever the 
situation is if your needs are not being met

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get out you are not being effective effective 
Effectiveness means that what your heart wants

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is being achieved the definition of satisfaction 
is the Fulfillment of your wishes and needs you

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cannot be a satisfied woman if you are not 
getting your wishes and needs met so if the

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situation that you're in right now does not allow 
you to do that it is time to leave simple as that

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It's actually an Easy Choice it may be hard to 
do it may be hard to execute but the choice can

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come from that empowered light and it can be 
a good choice for you all right our next point

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to know that we are empowered is determination 
you have the will to do it you have the energy

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to do something you have the energy to move along 
your satisfied path if you feel sapped if you feel

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burnt out then it is not your path it is time to 
leave if you need to drop whatever it is that's

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draining you so that you can be more resourced 
and have your well full so that you can move

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on the path of a satisfied woman the next thing 
to know that you are empowered is connectedness

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that you feel connected to those that you are 
around that you are surrounded by people that

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you love you can love them a little bit they can 
be work colleagues they can be acquaintances but

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you're in a community that you enjoy that you 
feel comfortable in that you're in a family

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that you enjoy and feel comfortable in we place 
a lot of weight on family but I want to relieve

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you of that weight to some extent and remind 
you that family was not necessarily a choice

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and not all family members are going to serve your 
highest good and if they don't it might be time to

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resign or check out either permanently or for a 
short amount of time to get your well filled to

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become more empowered to find your boundaries 
to understand your needs uh family is optional

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I had a powerful experience as a a young woman 
where I stood up to uh my father he was abusive

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and I actually ended up in court that was the only 
way that I could get him to just stop what he was

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doing and it was the first time in my life that 
someone stood up for me and affirmed that choice

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it was a judge she was a woman and I'll never 
forget what she said to my father she said uh

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you have a belief that you have a right to a 
relationship with your daughter and that is

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not a correct belief in fact it is a privilege to 
have a relationship with your daughter and today I

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revoke that privilege now I needed to have the law 
step in in order to sever that relationship with

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my father at the time in order to create safety 
for me in order to enforce my boundaries and I

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was I am still grateful this is why I'm telling 
the story to that wonderful woman judge who had

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had power and the agency to help me make that 
choice and enforce it now many people didn't

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understand that because we hold so dear to this 
idea of family blood is thicker than water but

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again it is a privilege to be in a relationship 
with anyone in your life and for anyone that

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you don't feel connected to who isn't feeding 
that source of empowerment it might be time to

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either hit pause pause or hit eject okay two more 
points to know that you are empowered to recognize

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that beautiful light burning within you you have 
nurturance meaning you have time and the ability

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to care for yourself you have the time and the 
ability to make your life a little easier uh I

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you know I owned a business um before this 
one and uh one of the things that I came

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to really love and adore in my business was 
the power of Outsourcing there are a lot of

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things about running a business that I I didn't 
love I didn't love the marketing I didn't love

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um some of the admin aspects and in the beginning 
of my business of course I had to do everything

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because I was building it but eventually 
I realized I didn't have to do everything

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that I could ask for help that I could Outsource 
things that really didn't serve my soul so that I

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could have time to do the things that really did 
serve my soul and that allowed me to tap into my

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creativity now Outsourcing isn't just for business 
you can actually Outsource almost anything in your

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life um asking for help is a power ful tool in 
nurturance and self-care because it will allow

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you time to do the things that feed you whether 
that's a creative Endeavor whether it's a physical

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Endeavor um whether it is some type of relaxation 
whether it's a vacation uh whatever way in which

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you feel most nurtured uh nourished I like the 
word nourished for the feminine actually to be

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fed to be uh filled up I think of our femininity 
as a well and when the well is dry and empty it it

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actually serves no one the well is dry and empty 
but no one can come and drink from that well when

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our well is full not only are we nourished from 
the inside out we're empowered but we're able to

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serve others in our community better better and I 
know that that's something that's really important

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to women to nourish ourselves also allows us 
to tend to our emotions when we're stuck in

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a masculine mode of work work work do do dooo BBB 
our emotions tend to get a backseat and we ignore

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them and we repress them but that is always going 
to be to our own detriment in times of self-care

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maybe we engage in meditation maybe we do some 
sort of spiritual practice maybe we get a massage

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maybe we just walk outside maybe we go hug a tree 
wherever you are whatever that is for you um it

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allows your emotions to have some time and space 
to flourish and your emotions will always tell

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you how you're doing and what you need if the two 
most important Gifts of femininity are emotions

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and intuition then this is critically important so 
nurturance all right our last bullet point for how

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to know we are empowered is self-affirming we're 
affirming all the things we're doing and really

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that is a sense of self forgiveness because you 
know sometimes we don't get it right but we can

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still affirm the choice that leads us to the 
next one so if you look back over your life um

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you know they say that hindsight is 2020 if you 
look back over your life maybe you can see how

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even what may have been the wrong decision in the 
moment LED you to a right one down the road and

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you can affirm even the decisions that maybe you 
second guessed at the time were always the right

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ones for you to know that you can forgive yourself 
is important but here's a trick about forgiveness

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there's actually nothing to forgive when you come 
to that realization Everything Is Forgiven it's

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like the child who spills the glass of milk on the 
floor we don't admonish them for it we don't you

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you know deride them for it degrade them for it 
we don't uh abuse them for it they simply spilled

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the glass of milk they didn't do anything wrong 
there's nothing to forgive in that action it's the

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same for us there's nothing to forgive we did the 
best in the moment that we did it and it's led us

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to where we are now and we can continue to learn 
from our past and do more in the future to affirm

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our internal light and remain in that state of 
self-empowerment so my fellow satisfied woman this

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is how we remain empowered this is how we light 
the path to empowerment remember that your light

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is always on start to see it in yourself every day 
and that's going to allow you to see it in others

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from the bottom of my heart thank you for your 
time and thank you for being on this path with

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me I'll look forward to talking to you more in the 
next podcast for now join my community and learn

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more about the path to becoming a satisfied 
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