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In some form or another most of us are interested 
in finding our own power power in today's society

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is incredibly valued but there are different ways 
to wield power and what I want to talk about on

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today's podcast is how we can be powerful 
as feminine women and how to lean into the

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power inherent in our femininity. Welcome to 
The Satisfied Woman podcast. I'm your host,

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Alanna Kaivalya, Ph.D. This podcast is dedicated 
to helping women lean into their femininity and

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rediscover the power of their feminine gifts we 
take a look at what it means to be a modern woman

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and how we can live A Satisfied life on our own 
terms visit the hub at thesatisfiedwoman.com and

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new for you today actually on the podcast is 
a special page just for podcast listeners to

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get all of the best freebies resource and gifts 
I have to offer you via my website so check all

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that out at thesatisfiedwoman.com/empowerme 
and I thought today's podcast episode was a

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great day to bring this new page forward for you 
the Empower me page because we are talking about

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the concept of feminine power and I want to 
discuss its significance in today's world and

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how it contrasts with traditional Notions of 
power so let's start with the more traditional

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Notions and where we're coming from and probably 
what you think of or even experience in your own

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life as what people think is power so first of all 
power is often associated with strength uh meaning

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physical strength or physical might we think of 
cars or trucks as powerful I think of the horses

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I enjoy riding as powerful I think of people who 
work out in the gym as powerful and yes there is a

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lot of power in strength for sure but those are 
two different qualities you can be strong and

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still be incredibly weak so even if you can lift 
9 million pounds with some pretty Fierce biceps if

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you don't have the capacity to stand in your own 
power your own internal power then what kind of

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strength do you really have lifting weights 
or being physically strong certainly is one

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thing standing in your own power is the sense of 
knowing who you are knowing truly who you are to

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your core and having the freedom or the agency to 
actually be that in the world now when I describe

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it that way it might be easy to understand that 
for women this has been a very difficult thing

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to do in the past and even still today remains 
an uphill battle being free to be who we are

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as women can often be very dangerous in many 
ways it can be physically dangerous emotionally

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dangerous psychologically dangerous Liv living in 
a patriarchal society as we do means that feminine

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gifts and qualities are typically devalued and 
so it feels like we are compromising something

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if we really lean into our femininity stand in 
our true power and unleash those gifts on the

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world many of us me included right I speak because 
I have the experience to hide our femininity and

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our Womanhood to some extent in order to try to 
lean into what is viewed masculine forms of power

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so we often associate power with masculinity 
as well not just that physical strength but

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the power to make decisions the power to lead we 
think of our military as strong and powerful and

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we typically think of the military as a more 
masculine Endeavor or um masculine um career

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choice or masculine pathway it doesn't necessarily 
have to be remember femininity can be done in any

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Arena it's just going to be that you do things 
a little differently uh women females feminine

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women can absolutely be in the military I've 
known many of them who are incredibly strong

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and powerful they're going to hold that military 
might in a different way they're going to hold it

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in a feminine way so there is a difference between 
masculine power and feminine power power does not

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just belong to the masculine and of course in a 
distorted way masculine power has often been used

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to oppress so there's a concept of power over 
versus Power with Now power over is typically

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how distorted power looks and power over someone 
else power over a situation power over a decision

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power over a household when people feel like they 
have power over others it does maybe for a moment

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or maybe in a false way give them a sense of 
accomplishment or Pride or control anytime we

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feel a sense of control over someone or power over 
someone what that requires unfortunately is for us

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to take power away from them and this has often 
been the plight of the woman um so for those of

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you I I released this podcast as an audio podcast 
of course on all of the podcast channels that

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you're familiar with apple podcast Spotify um but 
I also released this podcast as a video on iTunes

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oh and Spotify just started having video podcast 
as well so if you happen to be watching the video

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of this podcast you'll see that in this episode 
I'm wearing a scarf and this is a wool scarf it is

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kind of a cream color and it's got beautiful pink 
flowers printed on it and it matches the shirt

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I'm wearing I thought I'd tie it all in today 
for you now the reason the scarf is important

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and I promise relevant to the topic of power 
is because this was my grandmother's scarf now

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when you read my book The Way of the satisfied 
woman which I sure hope you do or if you read

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any of the blogs that I've posted on my website 
the satisfied woman.com uh you're going to hear

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a lot about my grandmother she was perhaps the 
most powerful and influential woman in my life as

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a young girl and even to this day she passed away 
in 2018 and to this day she is still the voice in

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my head I imagine when my intuition comes through 
she's the voice that I hear she was an incredibly

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powerful figure in my life but her background was 
from a a very unempowered place or a disempowered

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place she went through World War II and I mean 
I don't think anybody who went through World War

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II went through it in a in a not traumatic way 
but my grandmother's path through World War II

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was particularly traumatic she was taken from her 
home in the Ukraine at the age of 14 separated

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from her family put into a prison camp and 
essentially forced to work she was forced

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labor for many years in that prison camp uh on 
her own as a young woman she wasn't fed properly

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she wasn't treated properly of course she was 
abused uh and she was disempowered she was in

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a place where her power was taken away from her 
and she wasn't allowed to be who she was now as

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a result she became very quiet her voice got 
shut off and I I think that this is something

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that happens to many women who are in any kind of 
situation where they are disempowered their voice

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gets squashed and one of the qualities of course 
of powerful femininity is our communication we do

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love to gab we just do this is true of um any 
feminine woman uh and if it's not true for you

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as a feminine woman just you know consider that 
that maybe there's something that needs to be said

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or perhaps you're saying it in a different way 
perhaps you're saying it through ART or perhaps

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you're saying it through text messages or perhaps 
you're saying it through the way you physically

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communicate but we really hold the pathways of 
connection and communication in our femininity

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so she really shut that down she was quite quiet 
she reduced her opinions she reduced her footprint

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she reduced her Mark she basically played small 
and that was the way she uh stayed alive so that

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is of course an appropriate coping mechanism but 
it didn't allow her to flourish and as a young

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woman this experience of going through World War 
II was very impactful for her it was certainly

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something she never forgot and as I witnessed 
her growing up and I had the great Fortune to

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spend a lot of time with her it affected her 
every single day there wasn't a day that went

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by that either she didn't mention it or relive a 
memory or tell me about something or behave in a

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way that reflected those years that she was not 
only in the prison camp during World War II but

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she actually ended up staying there as a refugee 
after the war for 13 years um until she was able

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to immigrate with immigrate to America with um my 
grandfather and her two daughters of course one of

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those being my mother so her power was taken from 
her not only by the very difficult circumstances

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of War but by the men and the masculine Paradigm 
that was in charge at that time forcing her to

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play small and essentially as I like to call it to 
delete herself she had to minimize her footprint

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she had to delete her personality she had to 
delete her impact um you know and as I speak

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these words I think about the times in my own 
life that I've had to do that under difficult

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circumstances and perhaps you'll think about the 
times in your life that you've also had to do the

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same thing that there would have been something 
you would have said but you kept your mouth shut

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that you had an intuitive knowing that something 
was not okay and yet you did it anyway that you

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had a desire to bring something forth into the 
world a creative Endeavor and you kept that desire

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quiet and unrealized because bringing something 
into the world at the time would have been either

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unsafe or unwelcome so I grew up with these 
stories from my grandmother who by the time I

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arrived on the scene she had regained some of her 
power she had come into herself a little bit more

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and uh for those of you watching the video you can 
see this beautiful scarf I'm wearing and trust me

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I don't have a lot of things from my grandmother 
but the things that I have are precious and they

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are colorful my Grandma had style when she got to 
America she decided especially since she couldn't

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afford to purchase clothing that she would learn 
to sew and she sewed all the clothing that she

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weared uh weared wor over the years um and they 
were beautiful and I have some of those items

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maybe I'll wear one on a feature podcast uh she 
had beautiful scars that she'd always wear she

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just loved colors she loved flowers and that 
was part of her own self-expression she leaned

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into once she was free from basically being told 
what to wear what to do what to say every single

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day so I loved that element of self-expression 
I loved her coming into her own and some of the

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things that made her feel powerful was having a 
career she loved being a career woman when she

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got to America she was able to find a very simple 
minimum wage job that didn't require any skills

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because of course she didn't have any education 
um I think she went to school up to maybe third or

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fourth grade and that was it and she ran the copy 
room before there were Xerox machines she ran the

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giant machines that copied the plans for American 
Crystal Sugar Factory and that company no longer

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exists but she was very proud when they were 
thriving that every time a new Factory was built

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that she had printed the plans for that factory 
and she was also responsible for keeping the break

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room clean so she was sort of the um the connector 
around the office she was in the break room they

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didn't give her a separate office so she was in 
the break room all day so everybody who came in

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and out she would say hello to and be friendly 
with and that gave her some social experiences

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uh and she loved after she retired receiving her 
very small pension check every month because it

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had her name on it my grandmother came from a time 
when women weren't allowed to have their own bank

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accounts and they weren't allowed to have their 
own mortgages so um trust me everybody I I love my

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grandmother and my grandfather equally um but my 
grandfather was afforded a lot more opportunities

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even as an immigrant Coming to America than my 
grandmother was so the only money that was truly

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hers was the money that she earned through that 
low-wage job and the pension that she received

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every month as a retired person and she was so 
proud of it that it was the work that she put

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out into the world that earned her this little bit 
of money every month and she had this little coin

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purse that she'd put her actual physical dollars 
in because of course she didn't have a checking

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account of her own so that was something that made 
her very proud her creative Endeavors also made

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her very proud and powerful it was a way for her 
to connect with friends and family uh I had many

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many knitted sweaters from her every dress I wore 
up to about the age of eight or nine was a dress

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that she had made for me and another way that my 
grandmother expressed her power was by telling

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stories she shared with me stories about her life 
because she felt safe in the environment with me

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to do so and after my grandfather passed away he 
was very hesitant to share about the hardships

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they experienced in World War II so the stories 
were a little fewer and far farther between while

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he was alive but once he passed on and it was um 
about 20 years before she did boy oh boy she just

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blossomed and flourished and started speaking so I 
got to witness my grandmother who was so important

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to me and really a beacon for me of femininity 
as a young woman come in into her power as an

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old woman and it made me identify what being a 
powerful woman is because it doesn't mean that

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we need to lift 900 lb uh in a bench press it 
doesn't mean that we need to be an overt leader

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to the detriment of others and have power over 
other people it's not a hierarchical expression

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true feminine power which is what I want you 
to reclaim if you've lost it in any way in any

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part true feminine power comes from our greatest 
gifts and the greatest gifts of the feminine are

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our emotions and our emotional connection 
and our intuition our ability to tap into

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that inner knowing those are inherently feminine 
now everyone has those gifts even those who lean

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more fully into the masculine polarity certainly 
have emotions and certainly have intuition and

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is the feminine aspect of them that is the 
harbinger of those so if they lean more fully

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into the masculine they won't necessarily bring 
those forth all the time they won't necessarily

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trust them as much as we would all the time 
and they won't necessarily have as deep and

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Powerful as a of a connection as we do all the 
time for feminine women when we really lean into

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our femininity we are connected to our emotions 
and our intuition all the time and that is where

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we are going to thrive that is where we are going 
to feel and be most powerful when we're fully in

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charge of and demonstrating our femininity to the 
world people will experience that as powerful they

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will see that as inspiring as comforting when we 
are most fully ourselves we are powerful and this

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is true for anybody any qualities they have when 
they bring them forth fully of course when those

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qualities are of benefit to others we don't want 
um you know we don't want to go to the dark side

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of anything here that's kind of the difference 
between the power over versus Power with as soon

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as power slides into power over any qualities can 
be manipulated to a disastrous end so keeping in

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mind that power with and again that power with 
is a very feminine fundamental idea femininity

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wants collaboration it wants communion it wants 
to be with and for others so when we demonstrate

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our fullness when we demonstrate our power it is 
going to be Illuminating for those around us it's

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going to be empowering for those around us our 
power will help to shine the light up inside of

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others as well now when we connect to our emotions 
when we are completely ourselves then our emotions

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are going to be like guide posts for what feels 
right and what doesn't feel right and when we live

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listen to that more fully and when people trust 
us when we're surrounded by people who trust us

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and Trust our emotional guidance then they will 
be empowered by the emotions that come up for us

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when they come up in a healthy way when we emote 
in a healthy way if we feel sad that full sadness

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doesn't necessarily bleed out into others around 
us it doesn't necessarily depress others around us

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it can actually move others around us to either 
Comfort the the sadness and be present for us

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in our sadness which is connective or to alter 
our condition in some way or their condition in

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some way so that we alleviate the sadness now I 
want to be careful because sadness is not wrong

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there's nothing wrong with sadness the point 
isn't to not be sad sadness is a normal human

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emotion and you know it's going to happen we want 
to have lives that uh we are free to experience

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the full range of human emotion with whenever it 
is coming up the challenge isn't that emotions

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come up the challenge is when it becomes uh too 
drawn out or when it becomes harmful to others

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so what I mean by that is in a natural way humans 
uh will have emotions that last between 60 and 90

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seconds so when an emotion arises in a natural 
way you know when whatever incident occurs and

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you feel something from it that natural basic 
emotion will last only about 609 60 90 seconds

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and then it will pass I know and you're thinking 
of me well wait a minute you know sometimes I

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get in a funk for years or sometimes I'll feel 
anxiety you know for months um I understand I

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do too I do too that is the participation of the 
mind and the thoughts around the emotion not the

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emotion itself when we ret traumatize ourselves 
by talking over and over about the incident when

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we continuously think over and over about the 
triggering event then the emotions drag on and

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become a little more stuck and that becomes a 
challenge but when a natural emotion arises in

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response to something that's going on with us 
it's incredible communication about how we're

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feeling about our environment and for those who 
are slightly less tapped into our emotions but

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who are tuned into US it provides information to 
keep everyone happy and healthy and the energy

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flowing so sadness is information frustration is 
information even anger is information I told you a

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little bit about my grandmother uh I want to tell 
you about another friend who I love to talk about

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um I think I write about her in my book and I I I 
think I've mentioned her before on this podcast I

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consider her superpower to be her full expression 
of emotions when she is feeling something she just

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expresses it and she has an incredible amount of 
integrity so that when she expresses her emotions

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it it's not coupled with any kind of blame or 
shame or attack when she expresses her emotions

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she very clearly states what she is feeling and 
why and she's open to receiving feedback about

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what to do or why that is or how to shift it I've 
never met anybody like her and in fact I strive

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as much as I can to be like that um she's quite 
the inspiration in this way she just has such a

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full and beautiful command of her emotions and 
I find it very powerful because I watch people

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around her respond to that I watch them shift and 
maneuver to help Elevate her and make her more

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comfortable but in doing so it's not like it's not 
like a princess Vibe it's not like everybody's cow

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Towing to her or pandering in any way they really 
love her especially her husband he really loves

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her and he's very responsive and he's very playful 
as well with how he resp oh no you know here we go

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again he'll say as some husbands will um but he's 
responsive and he adjusts he course corrects and

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in doing so they have a very symbiotic and 
unified communication system and a very uh

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symbiotic life that flows in a beautiful Direction 
so power for us as feminine women lies in our full

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expression of emotions and being around people 
people who understand and respond to them in a

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healthy way another element of feminine power 
is our intuition and you know I it's a toss up

0:22:12.640,0:22:18.840
for me whether it's Intuition or emotions that 
are more powerful for the feminine I think maybe

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it's an individual experience right because we're 
all different so perhaps you as a feminine woman

0:22:24.000,0:22:30.560
like my good friend her emotions are just they're 
gold uh and perhaps for some others of us it's the

0:22:30.560,0:22:36.040
intuition that really is where our sweet spot is 
for navigating life and finding more satisfaction

0:22:36.040,0:22:43.800
in life when we have intuition as women um that is 
absolutely one of our most powerful gifts and I I

0:22:43.800,0:22:49.600
describe it as the voice of our ancestors coming 
through our female ancestors coming through they

0:22:49.600,0:22:56.840
have had tremendous experiences they have lived 
through Millennia of this patriarchal culture that

0:22:56.840,0:23:02.440
we have now inherited and they have wisdom for 
us and it's written into our biology if you've

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ever looked into something called epigenetics 
you know that this is actually in our DNA it is

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activated by certain life events and triggers 
that we go through and something arises from

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within us and we don't know why and it may not 
be because we've experienced anything like it

0:23:18.880,0:23:25.600
before but there is just an inner knowing that 
we need to do this or that or shift our course

0:23:25.600,0:23:34.200
or respond in a certain way now I maintain 
and I'm happy to to take bets on this one but

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I maintain that any time a woman disregards 
her intuition that it will not have a good

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outcome now I I left a long dramatic pause there 
for for a reason I feel that very strongly and

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I know that to be true in my own life and I know 
that to be true in the lives of the women that I

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speak with as well and talk to that we always look 
back on moments where we didn't heed our intuition

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and we recognize in hindsight that those moments 
were moments of disempowerment moments where we

0:24:12.720,0:24:21.520
were not ourselves that we weren't in our fullness 
that we were convinced by the agenda of another by

0:24:21.520,0:24:28.440
someone else having power over us if it's not 
right for us if it doesn't feel right if our

0:24:28.440,0:24:36.360
emotions start to well up in a in a not great way 
in a negative way if we have an intuitive hit to

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not go down that road but we do anyway that is 
a disempowered state and it will end up with a

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negative result so embracing our feminine power 
is in some sense it's a leadership role because

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when we do it fully those around us will be 
inspired by us and will be responsive but

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it just means that we're leading ourselves we 
have agency we're in charge of ourselves when

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we're in full embodiment embodiment and power 
of ourselves and we listen to our intuition and

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our guidance we are always going to be on the 
right path now my grandmother was very much on

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her right path once she escaped from the trauma 
and the hardship that she went through and when

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she started to be able to make her own decisions 
which really wasn't until she got to America and

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probably even decades after um you know she still 
brought a lot of her inculturation with her um I

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really feel like one of the greatest things that 
she did every day was go on a f mile walk that

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was her ability to connect that was her ability 
to be herself she wasn't listening to the noise

0:25:55.200,0:25:59.680
of others I mean I remember even you know again I 
like I said my my grandfather and my grandmother

0:25:59.680,0:26:06.600
share equal love in my eyes but my grandfather 
voted for my grandmother when they got their

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ballots in the mail he would just take hers and 
and Mark exactly what he was voting for and then

0:26:11.280,0:26:17.080
send them in so there were still a lot of ways in 
which she was disempowered but I saw her powerful

0:26:17.080,0:26:24.400
when she walked she was so accomplished with her 
she was so proud that she was walking um after

0:26:24.400,0:26:33.080
my grandfather died my mom actually decided 
to enroll her in 5K races walk races and in

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her age group she always won and I remember the 
first time she won her 5K she was beaming with

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pride beaming with pride because this was hers 
this is what she wanted to do this is where she

0:26:47.840,0:26:54.640
found a sense of connection to Nature to her 
femininity and to herself when we're connected

0:26:54.640,0:27:00.640
to ourselves we are powerful the the other way 
in which women are powerful feminine women are

0:27:00.640,0:27:05.400
powerful so emotions intuition leaning into those 
listening to those being in environments around

0:27:05.400,0:27:10.680
people who respond them incredibly powerful when 
we are most fully ourselves we are powerful and

0:27:10.680,0:27:16.000
one of the things that makes feminine women most 
fully themselves is their sense of creativity now

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I have another podcast on creativity so I won't go 
too much into what creativity is but it expresses

0:27:21.040,0:27:28.480
itself in many ways it is whatever you generate 
from almost nothing and as women we can do that

0:27:28.480,0:27:34.560
in incredible ways not just by literally creating 
something from almost nothing in terms of having a

0:27:34.560,0:27:40.040
child but creating something from almost nothing 
in terms of birthing new ideas into the world it

0:27:40.040,0:27:46.800
doesn't have to be Artistry it doesn't have to be 
um something that people would commonly term as

0:27:46.800,0:27:51.640
creative but whatever it is that you generate 
whatever it is that you birth into the world

0:27:51.640,0:27:58.120
makes you creative and the world needs it so any 
stifling of that for the feminine is disempower

0:27:59.040,0:28:05.680
and it will make us feel closed and make us feel 
small uh women are inherently powerful we are

0:28:05.680,0:28:13.320
inherently ambitious we inherently understand when 
and where change needs to happen in our world and

0:28:13.320,0:28:19.600
we will create that change with our creativity you 
know I think about the powerful me too movement

0:28:19.600,0:28:26.840
and the pink [ __ ] hats that everybody was 
knitting what an incredibly creative emblem of a

0:28:26.840,0:28:35.440
movement that centers women's safety so that kind 
of creativity that kind of communion and community

0:28:35.440,0:28:41.480
that kind of moving life forward letting everyone 
around us know hey this is the best pathway for

0:28:41.480,0:28:47.160
us for my community for my tribe there are many 
Pathways I am not saying there is one pathway

0:28:47.160,0:28:53.680
for all women but for you and those you align 
yourself with you will occupy a leadership role

0:28:53.680,0:28:59.840
as an embodied feminine woman when you lean into 
your intuition emotions and your creativity and

0:28:59.840,0:29:06.520
start bringing forward from within you the kind of 
world the kind of life and the kind of living that

0:29:06.520,0:29:14.160
is most authentic for you and most inspiring to 
those around you so embracing your feminine power

0:29:14.160,0:29:21.240
truly means having the freedom and fearlessness 
to lean into who you are as a feminine

0:29:21.240,0:29:28.040
woman now just as I say that even I feel 
like a weight removing from my shoulders

0:29:28.960,0:29:36.640
um and I also feel the juxtaposition of the spaces 
and places that women still exist in that make

0:29:36.640,0:29:46.760
that kind of power difficult compromised or even 
dangerous so as you listen to this podcast my dear

0:29:46.760,0:29:53.360
fellow satisfied sister I hope you'll think 
about places spaces and ways in which you can

0:29:53.360,0:29:59.840
lean in to your power that are safe and that are 
inspiring for you you may be in a position where

0:29:59.840,0:30:04.400
you can do this fully in your life and you may be 
in a position where you can do this in one area

0:30:04.400,0:30:09.920
of your life but in whatever way is appropriate 
for you I hope that you will I hope that you will

0:30:09.920,0:30:15.520
start to bring forth your power in as many ways 
as you can just as my grandmother did um another

0:30:15.520,0:30:20.760
creative thing that she did was she used to make 
me scrunchies she used to knit sweaters she used

0:30:20.760,0:30:27.520
to make clothing and she used to make food she 
loved me through food and all of those ways

0:30:27.520,0:30:38.480
that she brought her love her heart her soul into 
the world made my world better and we can do that

0:30:38.480,0:30:45.160
for others so this one's for you baba so for the 
women in your life who've inspired you for your

0:30:45.160,0:30:52.480
ancestors listen to your intuition for the people 
around you who love you listen to your emotions

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and for all the people who are around you and want 
to come after you bring forth your creativity all

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right everybody for more resources and for all 
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