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So you have an idea. You want to build a business. You are very likely sitting on a gold mine, and you wonder to yourself, "Oh my gosh, what if I actually build this? Is anyone going to buy it? Is anyone going to want what I have to offer? Well, here's the big switch, sister. The first person who has to buy into your big idea is you. Welcome to the Satisfied Woman Podcast. I'm your host Alanna Kaivalia. This podcast is dedicated to helping women lean into their femininity and rediscover the power of their feminine gifts. We take a look at what it means to be a modern woman and how we can live a satisfied and sovereign life on our own terms. Come visit the hub at thesatisfiedwoman.com, and while you're there, make sure that you book a call with me, so we can not only figure out what your big idea is, the gold mine that you're sitting on, but also that switch that needs to be flipped so that you can first invest in yourself. Because when we believe in what we do, in who we are, in what we have to offer, that's the kind of confidence that creates both success and sovereignty. Look, here's the reality: women know how to invest. I know that you are investing all day, every day, just probably not in yourself. You're investing in your family, maybe your kids, your partner. You're investing in your career or your job. You're investing in your future retirement, hoping that that's going to work out someday. You're investing in your friends, in your community, in your parents. Women make huge investments of themselves into everything and everyone else. So women don't struggle to invest. They just struggle to invest in their own value, in their own ideas, in their own business, in their own personal growth. Women struggle to put themselves first. I know this. This is almost every single woman that I talk to every week. She cites all of the other obligations around her that feel like more important in terms of her time, in terms of her money, in terms of her own gifts. Well, the tables need to turn. We need to start investing in ourselves as women. If you would look at your sister, at your best friend, at your daughter, and say, "Girl, you're valuable. What you have should be valued. You are worth whatever it is that you give to the world. You should be compensated properly for that, then it's time we turn the mirror on ourselves and invest in us. You know, one of the things that I know I lived with for many, many years was hope. Now I'm not knocking hope. As human as humanity, we need hope. Humans need hope to survive. There's a lot of unknowns out there, but we can't live on hope. Hope is wonderful. Having faith is essential, but faith needs action, and unfortunately, faith doesn't pay your bills. Faith still needs a plan. Faith needs a business, and I know too many incredible, gifted, talented, educated, hyper-educated women who just hope that someday it'll be their turn. Someday they'll have time. Someday they'll have money. Someday they'll have a good enough reason to finally pull back and turn the investment inward. They're waiting for external circumstances. They're waiting for something magical to occur, so that they will finally have maybe what they think they need to start building their business and create the financial sovereignty that will truly unlock the money, the power, and choice that they desire. Women have always desired choice, always, and we finally live in a time where we can start to have it, to employ it, to use it. Now, look, I wish that faith paid the bills, but in reality, it doesn't. I spent many, many years. You guys have listened to my podcast, and just think about it. There's 64 other podcasts. This is podcast 65. Can you believe it? When I when I started figuring out this episode, I couldn't believe that I've been doing this version of this. Podcast for this long, we've been here for a while. So many of you have probably heard some past podcasts. Have heard my story. You know that I struggled for many years as a poor, broke yoga teacher in New York City, and I had a lot of faith.
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I thought, well, if I just keep doing what I'm doing, the universe will provide faith. Will provide miracles at my doorstep, and it never worked out that way. It was when I put my actions where my faith was that I finally built something that worked for me. I brought my first business online in 2015 as a way to stop trading time for money, as a way to stop needing to show up consistently in order to make any kind of dollars that someone would give me, and back then, and even probably still, yoga teachers were not exactly well paid. Well, I had an autoimmune disorder. I was often sick, but my investment always went to my students first, my clients first, my places of work first. I invested myself, my expertise, my energy, my intellectual property into big studios who are making tons of money off of me, because I thought, well, if I just do that, someday the reward will come. The reward came when I centered my gifts, when I invested them in myself, when I built my first business online, way back before that was cool, and that's when things started to turn over. That's when the universe or faith, God, finally responded. Aha, Alanna, we see you. Now I cite my own story because that's easy for me to talk about. But I have to tell you, I see this in women all the time. One of the biggest and first conversations I have with women is not about their brilliance. It's not about their education. The women I speak with are brilliant. They are educated. They have been doing some form of expertise in the world for years, sometimes decades, just hoping that the time will come that all of that effort, all of that externalized investment, finally produces a return. And the first conversation I have with them is, it will return when you invest in yourself. The first sale of your business is not to a client; it is to you. To you, realizing the gold that you have, and sister, I know you have it. Look, you spend money on vacations. You spend money on your car. You spend money on things in your kitchen, your lifestyle, handbags. For me, yes, cowboy boots. You spend money on golf clubs, trucks, kids' activities, your partners. You'll invest in their business. You'll invest in building their career up, and none of those things are wrong. But when was the last time you invested in your own future? And I don't mean more education, more training. Okay, I speak with women who have PhDs, who have certificates out the wazoo, who have years of lived experience, who are constantly giving advice away for free. When was the last time you invested in your future by singling out your gifts, saying yes, these are valuable, and figuring out how you get to offer them to the world? Because I know, as women, we invest in our comfort. I want to know when you're ready to invest in your future, because if you've listened to the last, let's say, 10 episodes, you've heard me say this over and over. Money isn't the point. Money is great. I love money. I want all the women that I work with to make all of the money. Trust me, money is necessary in our current culture to move around, to have choice, to have power, to have sovereignty. It's just, it's just the operating system that we have for transactional things that we need. But money isn't the point, right? It's the power and the choice that it gives you. So I want you to make money, but we all know-I mean, since time immemorial-in order to make money, in order to create a system, a strategy, a business that will draw money in, you have to invest in it. Yes, you need to invest your time. Yes, you need to invest in your expertise. Writing the check in order to build your sovereign business isn't the point. The point is the identity shift that it takes to write the check. The identity shift that it takes to say, you know what, this money is going to go to me, to my. Sovereignty to my future, because when a woman says I'm doing this, everything changes. She's no longer thinking about a business. She's no longer dreaming about it.
Speaker 1 10:11
She's no longer hoping that someday it will come to fruition. She's no longer wishing on a wing and a prayer or having faith that her ship is going to come in if she just continues to behave well, outsource all of herself to everything else. That someday it will return. You have to give your faith a clear pathway to return. Right? Every magic requires an incantation. Every prayer requires clarity. You have to state clearly through your actions exactly what you want, and this is the moment that everything changes. This is the moment you're no longer just thinking about a business you're building it. This is the moment you're no longer just hoping that someone believes in you, that you finally decide you believe in yourself first. The biggest transformation is not when your first client buys from you; it's when you buy into yourself. If you would look at your sister, your friend, your daughter, and say you're worth it, you should absolutely invest anything and everything you can and all your time into building your expertise into something that creates the life you want and desire that generates your satisfaction, your sovereignty, that gives you the freedom and power of money and choice to have exactly the life that you want. That gives you the power to say yes and no. If you would look at any of your sisters, your friends, your daughters, and say that it's time to say it to yourself because here's the thing: we are not damsels in distress. We are not the fairy princess or the you know the little princess in the castle, hoping against hope that her handsome knight is going to ride up on the white charger and save her. We no longer live in that fairy tale. I don't know that we ever did, but newsflash: the knights stopped riding a long time ago. Our culture has changed. Women have spent decades fighting to have agency, but if we want agency, that means we've got to take responsibility for that, because there is no prince, there's no employer who's going to center you and put you on a pedestal. They're going to use your talents to make money for them. No one is going to magically drop our business or our sovereignty or our satisfaction on our doorstep. I wish that were the case, but it's not. At some point, all the agency, power, and choice that we have fought for, that we have yearned for, that we are still fighting for, that we still yearn for-it's here. It's here-not perfectly, not completely, not entirely-but if we want to affirm that agency, that choice, that power-if we want to say yes, not only did we want this, we are going to take advantage of it, and we are going to keep asking for more of it. We have to build it. We have to build it. Agency doesn't come with you know a genie with three wishes. Agency comes with us saying yes, claiming our spot, claiming our sovereignty, claiming our satisfaction on our terms. We don't need to play by those old rules. We don't need success from a masculine or patriarchal model. That kind of success depletes us. That kind of success overworks us. That kind of success still diminishes our feminine power because it asks us to pursue success at all cost, often to the detriment of others, to the point of burnout, logging in hours like it's some heroic thing to do, continuously giving ourselves away, working for someone else's benefit-that's not feminine sovereignty. I'm not saying you can't do that in the meantime, right? A couple podcasts ago, I talked about we can't. Just leap and hope that everything is going to work out. We have to build a bridge. That's what your business is. That's what these systems and strategies are. That's what I do with women. I help them build the bridge. Me and my team, we actually build a functioning online business for you. I listen to you. I figure out what your magic is, what your gold mine is, the thing that you do that no one else can do, the thing that someone is already coming to you over and over for, the thing that you are likely giving away, the thing that someone else is making money on, someone else is probably already paying for expertise in that field.
Speaker 1 15:40
They should be paying you. So me and my team, we build it. We we do the actual functional. We give you the homepage. We give you the branding. I develop the the systems from someone finding you all the way to giving you money. Because in the work I've been doing this for more than 10 years, and I didn't used to build this from scratch for women. I used to say, "Okay, go build it. And that tech, that overwhelm, the actual execution of it can be one of the biggest roadblocks. And so I just remove that roadblock for my clients. When we determine what your gift is, when you decide that it's valuable enough to invest in when you are your first client and you buy into yourself. We get you to the finish line. You are not the damsel in distress in the castle, hoping someone's going to ride by and gift you time, money, a business, sovereignty, satisfaction. We have more power, choice, and agency than we have ever had before as women, and it is time for you to claim it. I know you want that for your friend. I know you want that for your sister. I know you want that for your daughter. Right? If you want it for other women, the way that you show them how they get it is by doing it yourself. So when I speak to a woman and she's got incredible talents, she's been struggling, she's been working on this on the side, or she's been thinking about it for years, or she's even built it a little bit, but in a vacuum by herself on a wing in a prayer, hoping for the best, someone's going to recognize her someday. That's not the world we live in. That's not the case. One of the greatest powers of femininity is our ability to communicate clearly, and sometimes that means that we shout from the rooftops. Here I am, not in a garish way, not in a you know a distasteful way, in a clear way. Our leadership, our sovereignty, our ability to deliver our gifts to the world comes from our ability to be clear about who we are, who we serve, what we do in the world, exactly how someone can find us, exactly what it takes to work with us, we call our own shots. This isn't nine to five work. The kind of business that I help a woman build is a business that runs on her feminine energy that is in accord with her body, that works with who she is as a human, as a woman, as a member of a family, as a person who wants to have her own little patch of grass that is hers, that wants control over her money to do what she wants to do. I help women build businesses so that they can leave their terrible relationship, so that they can affirm their good relationship, so that they can support their growing children, so that they can further support their adult children. Women build businesses not because they're selfish. There's I've never met a woman who says, "I just want to do this for me, keep my talents to myself, and keep all my money to myself" Statistically, that's not how women operate. You give a woman a successful business, and she's supporting her community. She reinvests her gifts back into the people in the community that she loves. That is the least selfish thing anybody can do, so if you're listening to this and thinking, "Well, I I can't invest in myself. I'm too shy. I'm not worth it. Everyone else around me is more important. I have to invest in them in them first. That is not just putting yourself last. That's denying all of those people that you love the ability for you to have an even greater chance of investment if you've got access to a stream of income that you build, that you generate, that you say yes to, that you. Dial up when you need. You dial down when you're, you know, needing a break. When your family, when your community, when your systems, when your structure says, you know what, we need more. You go great. I've got access to that. That's feminine abundance. That is literally feminine abundance at work. Okay, women, women and feminine and masculine earn money differently.
Speaker 1 20:21
Okay, money is agnostic in terms of you know everybody needs it, every human needs it. It is just a structure of reciprocity. You can call it energy, but the feminine and the masculine earn differently. The feminine earns by receiving, not by going out and chasing. If you're in a business or a career where you're going out and chasing money, you're hoping for the next paycheck, you're working hard for it, you're extending yourself for it, you're giving yourself away, hoping for the best. You are stuck in that masculine model, and it doesn't work for us. When you create a business, a system that receives, that draws it in, that brings it to you, and it gives you what you need, not based on hustle, but based on heart, on talent, on systems and strategies of receiving. That is feminine sovereignty. And sister, I want that for you. So here's my question: What kind of future are you creating for yourself? Not everyone else. For yourself, because every investment you make is like a vote for the future you're creating, and you are either currently investing in a future that leaves you out, or that puts you at the center. So, have you invested in yourself yet? Because the first sale your business will ever make is the one you make to yourself. So, when you're ready, and and look, frankly, I don't even need you to be 100% ready. If you're 5% ready, if any of this sounds interesting to you, if a part of you internally is lighting up, going, "Wow, I can hear the truth in that. I can see that I want it for the women around me. Maybe I should also want it for myself. Let's talk. Head over to thesatisfiedwoman.com and book your call. Let's discover the gold mine that I know you are sitting on. Let's find out why you haven't invested in yourself yet, and let's create the power and the momentum of that first sale where you say yes, I'm building this-not just my business, my sovereignty, my satisfaction, my own patch of grass in the world, my ability to earn, to attract the abundance that I deserve, so that I can create exactly the life that I deserve. I look forward to talking to you soon, and until then, do everything you can to stay sovereign and satisfied.
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