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In learning to walk The Way of the Satisfied 
Woman I thought it would be a good idea to give

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a bit of a psychology lesson in how the energies 
of both femininity and masculinity work within

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each of our psyches welcome to the satisfied 
woman podcast. I'm your host, Alanna Kaivalya.

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This podcast is dedicated to helping women lean 
into their femininity and rediscover the power

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of their feminine gifts we take a look at what 
it means to be a modern woman and how we can

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live A Satisfied life on our own terms. Visit the 
hub at thesatisfiedwoman.com. As always it is a

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pleasure to be back with you on the podcast and 
so far we've explored a lot of different topics

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on what it means to be a modern-day woman how to 
thrive and survive in the patriarchy and how to

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navigate this current culture to our benefit and 
so we can live in the most fulfilled way possible

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it's not easy and I'm certainly not trying to make 
light of it but what I am trying to do is give you

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some tools tips strategies things to think about 
to make it a little more elegant to navigate let's

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say I'm not sure that I can solve all of the 
problems but through these podcasts through

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my book and through my online community I hope to 
at least give you some resources some connection

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a place to go to learn how to lean more into 
your femininity my background comes from a long

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several decades study in academics specifically 
in Psychology and mythology and one of the places

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that I began this research in femininity and 
by proxy masculinity was through the practice

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of psychology so in Psychology there is a lot 
of talk of femininity and masculinity and I

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thought it would be helpful to break down what 
that looks like in our psyche so we have a better

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understanding of how these energies are alive 
within us because they are every single human

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All Humans regardless of gender regardless of 
orientation have feminine and masculine energy

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within them all right we've all got both but 
each of us will have one that is our primary

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polarity one that we feel more comfortable leaning 
into more of the time now this doesn't mean that

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we can't navigate back and forth between them 
whenever we need and certain events activities

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times in our life will require us to move into 
our lesser loved polarity or our less um our less

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likely polarity but we can navigate between 
both what we want to avoid however is being

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stuck in the polarity that is not our primarily 
primary polarity that's where we run into trouble

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so let's unpack this a bit first I want to do a 
bit of a psychology lesson and talk about what

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the psyche is in sort of broad stroke so we have a 
better understanding of what is the psyche what is

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psychology working on and that way we can navigate 
a little bit more cleanly what feminine and

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masculine are for us so the psyche as a general 
broad Strokes rule is divided into three parts the

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what I like to think of as kind of the top part 
the top layer the supraconscious that's all of our

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Collective ideas the things that we share amongst 
us when we come into this life and we just somehow

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know things about our culture or our condition uh 
there's a lot of things in superconsciousness that

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divide westerners from easterners this is not 
hierarchical it's just differences westerners

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tend to favor individual IND idual ISM easterners 
tend to favor uh group dynamics again not better

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or worse they both have their value um but just 
things that connect us all Carl Young The Swiss

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psychologist would call this the collective so 
this is the superconsciousness this is also where

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we tend to lean into more religious practices or 
spiritual ideas the overarching uh Oneness that

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may connect us all whatever that is for you this 
is definitely not a religious lesson so whatever

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you deem to be a higher power um the bigger 
bigger thing out there the thing that brings

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us all together that is what exists in our super 
Consciousness this is where we get inspiration

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that Divine let's say lightning bolt hit of an 
idea that just comes to us we have no idea where

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it comes from that would be residing somewhere 
in the superc Consciousness so this is pretty

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Universal for all of us there are some cultural 
distances mostly divided just between each East

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and West um and it is where we have access to 
whatever it is we believe to be greater than

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us then we have our conscious uh element of our 
psyche that part of us that interacts with others

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the part of the part of me that's talking to you 
right now the part of you that's listening to me

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speaking that is your conscious mind the conscious 
part of your psyche this is the stuff that we know

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or really the stuff that we think we know the 
conscious aspect of our psyche is our personality

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it's what we live dayt day it's the decisions that 
we think we make it's the way that we interact

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with others it's our sense of humor it's our 
language it's the way we put sentences together

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it's the way we talk about ourselves or our world 
or our experiences it's the way that people get to

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know us and interact with us this is our conscious 
mind and it is conscious for us it is what is most

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known about us and the conscious mind is actually 
a very small sliver of the psyche they say I don't

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know who they are but they say in brain science 
that only about 10% of our brain is really being

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used at any given time I would say that's probably 
true for the psyche the psychological elements as

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well that we're really only conscious probably 
of about 10% of what's happening for us every

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single moment of every single day but this is an 
incredibly important part because it is how we get

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along in the world our personality is fluid it can 
change I know I know we have that saying sometimes

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you can't teach Old Dogs new tricks but really you 
can if you think about the entire scope of your

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life you were very likely a much different person 
when you were younger or maybe a teenager than you

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were let's say in the decade of your 20s and then 
perhaps the decade of your 30s saw some different

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personality changes as well people really do grow 
and evolve and this growth and evolution of our

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personality exists in the conscious mind we'll go 
through an experience we'll learn something maybe

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we'll read some books we'll take some classes uh 
we'll discover new things and we'll fold that into

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an Ever evolving understanding of ourselves the 
world our personality so this is the conscious

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mind things that we see and things that we think 
we know and I'll get to that in a second uh that

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we live in everyday life and then we have the 
unconscious which is quite vast psychologists

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agree and probably even people who study brain 
science agree that most of what's in the brain

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or the psyche is quite unknown to us in terms 
of it's difficult to study it isn't accessed in

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a conscious way but it does live within us it 
does exist within us so the unconscious Realm

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of the psyche is the realm of our dreams it's 
the realm of our emotions it's the realm of our

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triggers it's the realm of our inner child it's 
the part of us that has been living alongside of

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us this whole time and it really feeds up to our 
conscious mind what it is that we then Express or

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live or say or decide uh wisdom that I learned 
a long time ago in a practice called NLP neural

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linguistic programming is that the decisions 
that you think you make have actually already

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been made by your unconscious moments before and 
those decisions are then effectively served up

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to the conscious mind for you to live and act 
them out the unconscious is where the emotions

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live and it's where our deep triggers live the 
unconscious is really codified set set in well

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I'll say Stone but everything about the psyche is 
malleable they're put in place let's say set in a

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soft kind of malleable Play-Doh type Stone when 
we're really young our world in our experiences

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as youngsters shape our unconscious and then 
we're destined to continuously replay those as

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we grow and age even into adulthood so for example 
let's say we have a young three-year-old child and

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this three-year-old child Witnesses its primary 
caregivers in a fight we don't even need to know

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what the fight is about it could be over the 
milk that one forgot to buy that day but the

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child sees the fight and doesn't understand what 
the fight is about doesn't understand that this

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animosity between its adult caregivers is just 
temporary it's not really a catastrophic thing

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but for this three-year-old let's say the first 
time seeing a fight it can be scary they don't

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have the mental capacity to understand what's 
going on and their little brains believe that

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they're now at risk of the caregivers potentially 
not taking care of them or being unstable in some

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way and so the three-year-old reacts by leaving 
this scary scene and hiding under the bed now for

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a three-year-old this is an excellent decision we 
love this decision for the three-year-old it keeps

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the three-year-olds safe it removes them from the 
tense uh environment they don't have to witness

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the fight they can hug the teddy bear and and this 
is a great decision for a three-year-old but this

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gets locked into the unconscious and any time as 
an adult this three-year-old Witnesses tension

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in its environment that has the same flavor the 
same Vibe as that initial fight then that early

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reaction of hitting the eject button and hiding 
under the bed will be replicated by the adult

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maybe they avoid conflict maybe they hi tail 
it out of there and maybe they just check out

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of whatever conflict is happening so they don't 
deal with it in their adult brain their younger

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self their inner child let's say hijacks them as 
an adult and has them replay the scenario now the

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good news is when the unconscious speaks in this 
way when the unconscious is triggered in this way

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and we do call it a trigger and I I love this word 
trigger because if you think about a weapon or a

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firearm when you lay your finger on the trigger 
it's got so much potential doesn't it it's got

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a potential to Fire and just the slightest motion 
of your finger will cause that firearm to explode

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and the bullet to come out and then who knows 
what the consequences are after that and just

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this little movement creates a massive reaction 
and this is what the unconscious does when it's

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triggered something as innocuous as a little 
squabble amongst friends can feel like that same

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thing that happened to the three-year-old and 
cause a much bigger reaction than is necessary

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we know we're in our triggers when the reaction 
to an event is much bigger than the event itself

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it's sometimes difficult to see this in 
ourselves we we want to when we're in

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an emotional and triggered State we often 
don't recognize it and it often feels so

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real and potent to us that we go unconscious one 
psychological term is that we flip our Lids that

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our our conscious mind our prefrontal cortex our 
logical thinking just goes offline and we're such

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ly in this unconscious Arena of emotions and now 
it is real it is real for us but let's just say

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it's disproportionate to what's in front of us 
so that's the unconscious mind it's an incredible

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important part of who we are and it really guides 
Our Lives it makes the decisions before we think

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we make them it delivers our emotions it conjures 
our dreams at night and it is the basis for our

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intuition it's the basis for our intuition now 
this is important especially for those of us who

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identify more with the feminine energy within us 
our intuition is absolutely key for navigating in

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our life all right so that's the makeup of this 
pyy we have the superc Consciousness that part of

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us that connects to everything and everyone else 
that part of us that connects to something greater

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whatever that is for us we have the conscious mind 
that is responsible for logical thinking rational

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thinking it's really connected to our prefrontal 
cortex it is our personality it's our face that we

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show to the world it's how people describe us and 
interact with us and then we have the unconscious

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mind that is the reservoir of our hopes our dreams 
our intuition it's who we are internally and it's

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the place that our emotions are generated from 
now that we have the landscape of the psyche

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kind of under under uh with a descriptor with 
an understanding let's talk about the feminine

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and the masculine so it is the modern day era and 
as I talk about feminine and masculine and as you

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listen what I am not discussing in this podcast 
is gender or sexuality now the reason for that

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is that every human has within them both masculine 
and feminine and every human regardless of gender

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expression regardless of sexuality will have 
the tendency to lean into either feminine or Mas

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masculine more often now sometimes we get stuck 
in the wrong one that happens and I'll talk about

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that too but no matter what body we inhabit we're 
going to have a primary polarity that is either

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masculine or feminine we have people who identify 
as men who also identify as being more on the

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feminine polarity we have people that identify as 
women who identify more as being on the masculine

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polarity we can find any combination and iteration 
on the planet it is a diverse and wonderful world

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and for each of us as individuals we want to 
learn to navigate both masculine and feminine

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polarities with ease and a plum as it were so 
that we can make sure that we get the best use

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of these polarities when necessary and as I said 
each of us is going to have times in our lives

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that we need to pop over to the other polarity 
in order to do something that that polarity does

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better because each of these polarities does have 
different quality qualities and these qualities

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again there's no hierarchy one is not better than 
the other but we do live in a patriarchal world

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so those of us who identify with the feminine 
polarity have likely gotten a lot of cultural

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messaging that the feminine is weak that it is 
Meek that it is less desirable that it is less

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powerful none of this is true both polarities 
are incredibly powerful and have a lot to offer

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in their own way but they are different and I 
want us to celebrate those differences I want

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us to honor and celebrate those differences 
because they are precious and we possess all

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of them when and if we want to so the masculine 
probably unsurprisingly is known for its strength

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its bravado its directiveness its logic in its 
most fundamental form form the masculine energy

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is Direction very pointed Direction and logic now 
I know some of us listening might kind of have a

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little chuckle here and think to ourselves yeah 
but not all men are logical correct and not all

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men are fully in their masculine sometimes the 
women are in their masculine sometimes people

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of any gender can be in their masculine but the 
masculine trait the highest form of masculine

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energy will be Direction and logic now sometimes 
it's not in its highest form sometimes it's in a

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distorted form where that direction becomes Force 
instead of being powerful it tries to have power

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over it tries to dominate it tries to force its 
will in directing those around it into its decided

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path masculine decision making is incredible and 
we need to make really powerful clear unilateral

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Ed decisions we want that masculine energy but we 
want that masculine energy to be in service of the

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highest good of all when that masculine directed 
decision- making becomes forceful overbearing

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powerful that's when it becomes toxic when it 
thinks it knows best for everyone else that's when

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it is not in its power it's actually disempowering 
to others so all of these energies that we have

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within us have both high and low Expressions 
let's say they have their their best expressions

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and they have their distorted Expressions there 
is no bad or good like these energies in and of

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themselves are not bad or good it's really how 
we use them and how we bring them forth that

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makes them one or the other the feminine on the 
other hand its most classic and Powerful quality

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is its intuition and its connection to emotion so 
when we want to really feel what's happening when

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we want to tap into what's within us when we want 
to have some information that goes more uh deeply

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than just a plus b equals c we'll want to use that 
feminine energy the feminine is also known for its

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power of collaboration for its Cycles its cyclical 
movement its ability to um take a lot of different

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things into account the masculine will be very 
directed and focused the feminine will want to

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explore and and look at options and discover 
different ideas and play in that space a little

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bit tease it out they may want to spin around in 
spiral Spiral is very feminine so these are also

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incredibly good qualities when we're in a group 
collaborating we want to use that cyclical energy

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that spiric nature of the feminine we want to use 
that feeling tone to feel what is going to be the

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highest and best uh for everyone involved the 
feminine loves collaboration it loves communion

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it loves pleasure Joy nothing like the feminine 
can run pleasure through the body and when the

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feminine runs pleasure through the body everyone 
around the feminine experiences and benefits from

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that the feminine exists in the unconscious so 
the feminine is this domain of feeling intuition

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dream dreams Wonder creativity everything 
that is created in human nature comes from

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the feminine so those of us who lean more into 
the feminine polarity in our psychic energies

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we have that power of creativity and when we need 
to be creative if we are usually on the masculine

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polarity we'll want to slide over to the feminine 
to get that creativity flowing now sometimes these

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polarities cannot really exist exist at the same 
time so if we want to be in that Creative Energy

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we can't have direction we can't have unilateral 
decisions we can't have logical thinking that's

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going to stifle creativity so these polarities 
exist with each other they are complete in and

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of themselves but they cannot exist without the 
other just like light needs dark just like up

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needs down you can't have up without D down you 
can't have light without dark you actually can't

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have masculine without feminine so for those of 
us who feel more comfortable at ease in flow when

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we're tapped into our feminine nature we'll 
want to stay in that polarity more often and

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then use the masculine when we need it now 
given that we're in a patriarchal culture

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we those of us who identify as feminine often get 
waylaid into being masculine more of the time too

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often and we get stuck there and that's really 
going to be to our detriment we're going to feel

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inauthentic we're going to feel like we're wearing 
a mask it's going to feel like burnout overwhelm

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exhaustion we're going to lose our zest for 
life we won't be able to tap into our creativity

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it's going to feel like a square peg in a round 
hole so for those of us that identify as feminine

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it's actually harder for us to really lean into 
that feminine because of the dominating culture

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being more masculine masculine is more valued when 
we get into a a usually a business situation those

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masculine powerful unilateral decisions hold more 
weight if we walk into a board room a boardroom

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and we want to collaborate with others and ask 
for their opinions and see if we can brainstorm

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what might be the best opportunity or the best 
solution moving forward for everybody that tends

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to look in today's world like weakness like 
we can't make decisions for ourselves when

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in fact it's actually a very powerful mode of 
being to be in that collaborative connective

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creative feminine mentality it's just that 
it's not valued today in patriarchal societ

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that doesn't make it wrong it makes it an 
opportunity for us who do identify more

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with the feminine energy to bring that forth to 
find Opportunities where we can collaborate and

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commune to find places in our life where we 
can lean into the creativity and bring that

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forward to really learn to navigate between 
both masculine and feminine energies a little

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more EAS easily so that we can use it 
when we need and then drop it when we

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don't I take a heavy sigh here because it is 
not easy I I know that I say this and I'm I'm

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talking about it and I'm teaching about it but 
I understand the challenges of it I have myself

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lived for far too long in the masculine because 
that's just really the default that happens to

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be the culture at the time but it doesn't make 
it right and it doesn't make it easy for us and

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it doesn't make it authentic for those those 
of us who identify more with the feminine the

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feminine has been by the culture historically 
repressed and oppressed so that means globally

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anything that is feminine is seen is less 
than and that also means internally that we

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as feminine um beings get the messaging that it's 
better to repress that that we'll have more let's

0:24:24.600,0:24:31.560
say success if we repress our feminine nature if 
we take stamp down our emotions I mean what what

0:24:31.560,0:24:40.080
feminine woman hasn't been um chastised for 
being too emotional what strong woman hasn't

0:24:40.080,0:24:48.360
been called a [ __ ] what emotional woman hasn't 
been called crazy I mean these are just ways that

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we're used to being oppressed or put down when 
we express our full femininity but anytime we

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repress or suppress something what happens is we 
run into the hydraulic nature of the unconscious

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it's like a Jack In The Box anytime we push 
something down into the unconscious which is

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a part of our psyche a big part of our psyche 
it stirs it festers it lives there and it gets

0:25:15.960,0:25:25.240
a grip inside of us and it might toxic FY for 
a while it might distort for a while so that

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emotional part of us that we try to repress 
becomes comes really reactive or that Meek

0:25:32.920,0:25:38.680
side of us that we try to repress becomes really 
bold and overbearing in some ways it almost has

0:25:38.680,0:25:46.600
an opposite reaction now no matter what polarity 
you exist on anything you repress is going to have

0:25:46.600,0:25:53.960
this reaction this is quite literally what keeps 
psychologists in business so the feminine having

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been repressed for way too long especially for 
those of us that identify primarily as feminine

0:25:59.720,0:26:05.520
it means that we're not accepting ourselves 
completely as we are we feel a sense of

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inauthenticity and that's going to great on our 
souls this is why I'm doing this work right now

0:26:14.360,0:26:21.240
because it's time we live in a day and an age 
where it's time to let the Jack out of the box

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it's time to let our feminine nature free it's 
time to reclaim the powerful be beautiful aspects

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of our femininity and femininity is powerful but 
it's not powerful like masculinity again let's

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respect and honor our differences masculinity has 
power in a different way masculinity has logic has

0:26:44.080,0:26:50.920
Direction has providership has protection 
on its side and when it exercises that in

0:26:50.920,0:26:58.240
its highest it is beautiful femininity 
has Joy pleasure receptivity creativity

0:26:58.840,0:27:07.080
emotions intuition on her side and when those are 
fully lived and expressed they are also powerful

0:27:07.080,0:27:17.360
and beautiful now I have a PhD in mythology it's 
very cool I love my myths and what I am able to

0:27:17.360,0:27:26.440
glean from myths are so many examples of powerful 
feminine figures we don't have them so much in our

0:27:26.440,0:27:32.840
Western mythology Western mythy again because it 
developed in a patriarchal setting really reveres

0:27:32.840,0:27:41.000
the more masculine elements of myth but that's not 
always the case and if we look to deep history and

0:27:41.000,0:27:49.000
look to our Greek mythology which we love not only 
do we have the god uh Aries or Mars same Greek and

0:27:49.000,0:27:57.560
Roman God of War we have its feminine counterpart 
palis Athena so whereas Aries or Mars the God of

0:27:57.560,0:28:05.240
War will will use his bravado and might with all 
of the armies behind him to just March and lay

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waste in terms of War palesa does things a little 
differently now there there is a time in place for

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Mars and Aries We There is time and place for 
that but it's not every time and place and the

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way that Palace Athena engages in her um in her 
Wars through strategy she thinks about things

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she really is calculated in her Maneuvers and 
she might even use some subversion she might

0:28:34.000,0:28:40.320
use some quieter tactics she might engage in 
diplomacy pallas Athena has a bow and arrow

0:28:40.320,0:28:45.760
she's incredibly calculated and targeted with how 
she does things she's going to sit back in her war

0:28:45.760,0:28:52.400
room and strategize with all the little pieces on 
the board before she even makes a move that's the

0:28:52.400,0:29:00.040
feminine protecting what it loves and that's what 
the feminine does they protects what it loves the

0:29:00.040,0:29:07.800
masculine protects what it owns what it sees 
is the masculines now again the protection is

0:29:07.800,0:29:16.320
masculine the feminine nourishes what it loves 
so we have these both can go to war both are

0:29:16.320,0:29:22.160
incredibly powerful when it's time to fight for 
what we believe in and what we love but they'll

0:29:22.160,0:29:28.040
do it in different ways so what I want to end 
with on this psychology lesson for this podcast

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is that there are differences between masculine 
and feminine one is not better than the other

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both are within us and one will be our primary 
energy both are powerful and they are different

0:29:44.160,0:29:49.280
let's lean into those differences let's start 
celebrating those let's bring forth more fully

0:29:49.280,0:29:57.320
what is within us so we can be most authentically 
who we are and for those that identify as feminine

0:29:57.320,0:30:02.600
it's time to walk that path of the way of 
the satisfied woman so for more information

0:30:02.600,0:30:07.680
on that for more lessons on how to walk the way 
of the satisfied woman please visit my website:

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thesatisfiedwoman.com where you'll find a 
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