Permission to Stop Performing: Reclaiming Your Truth, Energy, and Feminine Power
There’s a performance so many women are caught in — and most of us don’t even realize we’re doing it.
It looks like saying “I’m fine” when our hearts are breaking. It sounds like apologizing for our needs. It feels like smiling through the pain, suppressing our truth, and trying to earn love by being agreeable, accommodating, and always available.
This performance is invisible — but it’s everywhere. It’s the quiet self-abandonment we’ve been trained to repeat in exchange for safety, belonging, or approval. And it’s exhausting.
I recorded this episode as a permission slip — for every woman who’s been performing for so long, she forgot who she is underneath the mask. This is your invitation to stop.
Because the cost of performing is steep. It cuts into our soul. It severs intimacy. And it leaves us depleted, disconnected, and dissatisfied.
In my own life, I’ve performed through grief, pain, and physical injury — showing up to teach yoga after two car accidents and even on the day of my grandfather’s funeral, because I couldn’t afford not to. I learned early on that being pleasant, professional, and “perfect” was how I survived. But that survival came at a cost: my truth, my rest, my realness.
And I know I’m not alone.
Every time we shrink to fit someone else’s needs, suppress an emotion because it’s “too much,” or fake a smile to keep the peace — we trade our aliveness for approval. But what if you didn’t need to earn love by being less of yourself?
When we stop performing, something miraculous happens. We become real. We become rooted. We give the world — and the people around us — the gift of our truth. And in return, we open the door to genuine intimacy, creativity, and satisfaction.
You don’t have to keep pretending. You don’t have to keep giving yourself away.
This is your permission slip to stop performing.
Let it be your sacred rebellion — and your return to sovereignty.
